Last Sunday in Relief Society we had our lesson on Work and Responsibility, It was a wonderful lesson and very well taught. One of my favorite quotes from the Gospel Principles book was on pg 157-
" Children should do their part in the work of the family. It is necessary fro children to have work assignments to fit their abilities. They need to be praised for their successes. Good work attitudes, habits, and skills are learned through successful experiences in the home."
The best part of the lesson came when the teacher asked "Why is it important to keep a balance in life between work, recreation and rest?"
The first sister to raise her hand was an older, married, and has no children. She asked how do mother find time to do that? And that's when it happened... all eyes turned to ME. There are many incredible mothers in my ward- many who I turn to for help. The teacher then asked how do I do it.
I first had to let them all know it has been a tough road this last year with the twins (who will be ONE in 21 days!!!!). There have been many times when I have told myself I can't do it. But when I get those thoughts in my head- feeling depressed, anxious, EVERYTHING is impossible -that is Satan. And he is doing a good job at trying to pull me down and feel like I can't handle anything. It took time to realize this. It did not happen overnight. And for finding balance in life I am at a point that when I need something I need to ASK. I would often tell my husband that he needs to KNOW when I need a break or want to go out and he would always tell me "I can't read your mind". I have to let him know. I have to let others know. And when I want to do something I have started to find ways to include my kids. Is it EXACTLY what I wanted? Probably not. Will it turn out the way I planned? No. I am though, creating memories for my children and myself .
One sister also reminded us that husband and wife need to have their weekly dates!!! I feel we've done a good job with that task so far this year (New Year's resolution). Since the new year we have gone out on 3 dates!!! Being we are only six weeks into the New Year:0
I want to know how you keep a good balance between work, recreation and rest? How can parents help their children maintain this balance?
Nick and I have an interesting balance (if you can call it that) of those things. First off, I am a workhorse. Crossing of a list of things to do and finishing projects is more fun to me than playing. Nick on the other hand would play until the day is through. Individually, we aren't super balanced, but together, our kids hopefully will learn to be! :) I always try to have my kids clean up toys before their naps and before we leave to do errands. that way, when we get home, the house is clean. It's nice to have the kids know they have to do certain things before they can play! That's my two cents, I am sure there are better opinions out there though :)
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